The Three Magic Words

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So often one come across mothers dropping their children to school and when teachers greet the child with ‘good morning,’ mothers prompts their child, “say, good morning”, without giving the child the required space and time to process the social interaction and without realising it, mothers have made social interactions a boring process which just needs to be completed, rather than an enjoyable interaction.

It is important that children grow up with social smartness, or what we commonly call ‘people skills’, as getting along with people means half the battle IS won and social interaction is a human need so it makes people happy when we interact, have fun, exchange ideas and are liked by others, it boosts our confidence, self esteem and gives us that small bounce in our steps!

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So inculcating inter personal intelligence in children is beneficial to their future success. Parents and schools must focus on developing this intelligence and it starts with the preschool years. It starts with small little interactions and what we call manners. How to eat, how to sit, how to talk, what to say, when to say, what to do, are all an integral part of this understanding. Here parents and teachers need to remember that manners are not what we do only when someone is watching us but manners are what we do when someone is not watching us. This is the important difference, so if you have to always prompt your child to say good morning, or thank you, it only means that the child has not understood the value of these words and is just repeating them to please you.

Teach children words like ‘thank you’, ‘sorry’ and ‘please’ by referring to them as the magic words or the magic keys that help you do things with ease, as soon as you say these words, people smile, and make you happy so are they not magic words? It is important that parents find out from the school the kind of techniques and methods that the school is using to teach manners and social skills, so that parents can teach

children the same at home, this will help children pick up the social skills faster.As adults we need to be conscious of our own manners and social skills.

Do we say ‘thank you’, ‘please’ and ‘sorry’ enough?

 

Another important point especially in the teaching of the word ‘sorry’ is to see that it is used in the right context. Saying ‘sorry’ is about meaning it, feeling it and never repeating the regrettable act again. It is not just about saying the word and moving on. This is what we are teaching our children today. As soon as one child hits another we promptly ask him/her to say ‘sorry’ and the child does just that. The child says ‘sorry’, moves on and hits another child. So he/she has understood that sorry is required to be said after one hits or harms, so it is not the hitting or harming that is bad but not saying the ‘sorry’!

We also need to be sensitive about the rhymes and stories that we expose our children to; maybe we can change them a little or add some elements of manners in them

goldilocksespecially if the child is at the stage of learning social skills. There is a favourite fairy tale; Goldilocks and the three bears, where Goldilocks takes what she wants, does what she wants, spoils the bears home and then when they come home instead of saying sorry she just runs away! Is that good manners? Here is a story that is a good discussion topic of what magic words Goldilocks should have used.

 

So thank you for reading this article, sorry if it has been a little too long and please see that children enjoy the magic of manners!

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Rainbow at your door

Research shows that colours have a significant influence in your life. Know your colours, because the colour of your child’s room, his/her school bag, the colour of the soap your child uses, the colour of his/her plate, the colours of the food on his/her plate all have the potential to influence your child.

When a child is a toddler, his/her favorite colour is inevitably, the colour red. ‘I want a red ball, red shoes, red car’ etc. And then comes the awareness of other colours from primary to secondary and then to mix and match and sometimes children conjure up their own colours. Colours are something that we take for granted in the environment but if used well can help you get the best out of your child and even your husband!

Colours have an impact on our moods and emotions; this is a known fact of colour therapy. Children bring colour to our life, so let’s add more colour to their life.

Did you know that colours impact your health? Well here are a few interesting facts about colours:

  • red paint.jpgRed is a warming and stimulating colour and excessive amounts can lead to anger, irritability or hyperactivity, naturally because it is a stimulating colour.
  • Orange is an anti-depressant colour, which means it can make orange paintyou joyous; no wonder some communities tie colourful orange flowers on their doors!
  • Yellow is calming, promotes well being and happiness and for children it is  a happy colour- happy sun, happy sunflowers…..yellow paint
  • Green is again calming and relaxing and imparts a feeling of energy. Try walking on green grass or going to a green garden, you automatically feel calm, relaxed and rejuvenated.

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  • Blue is a soothing colour and it induces calm and restful sleep without nightmares!

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And brain research says that colours that enhance brain function are:

  • yellow, beige and off white increase optimal learning

  • red, orange and yellow spark energy and creativity.

Now let’s enhance children’s lives both at home and school with these facts….

In our everyday shopping we generally don’t give that much importance or thought to colours, we first give preference to the price, the size and then select from the given colours the colour we like. But we may end up with a ‘tattered rainbow’ for our child. Think about it, a bright yellow in your child’s bedroom, red pyjamas, and orange bed sheets! So you have a child who is bright and ready to learn with the yellow, hyperactive with the red and ready for something creative with the  orange colour, and then you wonder, ‘my kid is active at bedtime, how do I make him/her sleep?’. Simple! With light green bed sheets, light blue pyjamas etc..

Now that you know that colours make an impact, then use your colour sense when buying anything for your child and also try to ensure that there is a combination of colours otherwise surely it would be quire boring to have a yellow snack box, a yellow water bottle, a yellow bag, and a yellow pencil. Yes, we understand that your child may insist on one colour,  but there can be different and designs on those colours? They need not be a solid yellow, right?

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There are other ways that you can use your newly learnt colour knowledge, how about your child’s food plate? If you are using plastic or melamine then try out colours that make the plate attractive to your child, instead of the boring white. Also the food that you serve the child should be in different colours. Do not add food colours but do add a variety of colours on the plate makes to make your child want to eat and even the pickiest of eater may start nibbling, so try  serving at least 3 colours in every meal- so have something red (ketchup, cherries, tomatoes) have something green (cabbage, cucumber, lettuce, broccoli) and something yellow (dal, sabzi, corn). Then of course there is purple, white and orange to experiment and add. Play a game with your child and ask him/her to choose a menu for the next meal which will have red, yellow and white. So you have given him/her the power to choose but within the colours you want.

Children are picky in all hygiene habits, be it brushing one’s teeth or having a bath. Introduce the colour genie to help you! Buy a soap and toothbrush of his/her favourite colour, stick colourfull stickers on the handle of the toothbrush and see how your child is attracted to the toothbrush. For very picky kids, change the toothbrush colour every two days and let your child guess which colour toothbrush his mummy or daddy has kept for him/her today. (Buy 4 toothbrushes and exchange them every two days.) White soaps are boring, where soaps are concerned kids are attracted to translucent colours, colours that make them feel as if they can see through the soap.

Some colours to consciously avoid in a child’s life:

  1. ‘Colourful’ words!

  2. The red on a child’s cheeks after he/she has been scolded or slapped. Never ever, let this color show up on your child.

  3. The brown frown on a child’s face when you ignore him/her.

  4. The grey of boredom when doing boring drill work.

  5. The black mood that stems from jealousy, sibling rivalry, unfulfilled expectations and being rejected and ridiculed by adults.

  6. The white lack lustre mood of a child addicted to video games and television.

Colours are not only in clothes and furniture, they are in our lives in every aspect of it and the more natural colours that we will bring in our child’s life the more vibrant and colourful will we make his/her future. So begin colouring your child’s life today.

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Animal Exercises!

Don’t get the wrong idea.. we are not talking about how to exercise as animals,  but we are going to see how animal movements can be used as fun exercises for children.

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Why animals?

Well that’s simple. Children love movement and animals have a variety of movements and children love animals and love to mimic their movements!

So come along  and take them on an animal safari.

Rules :

  • Follow your mother/father/teacher.
  • No shouting or screaming, as you will scare away the animals!
  • No guns allowed!

So lets go, lets tip toe as we don’t want to scare away the animals.

Note to parents:- This is an imaginary activity so it is about making children imagine the animals and about having fun. When you will participate with your child, not only will you be able to spend quality time and bond with your child but it will also be a nice relaxing work – out for you.

Who do we see?

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Make the sound of an elephant trumpeting. Yes,an elephant.
-So let’s spread our legs and hold our arms away from our body and stomp around like elephants all the while singing this song.
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“This is the way the elephant walks, elephant walks. (2)
This is the way the elephant walks,
so big and huge is he.”

 

Now do you see the tall giraffe? Well lets become a giraffe.animals pictures
-Stretch your neck,look up,hands at the side of your body,stretch your body and tip toe and walk like a giraffe singing this song.
“This is the way the giraffe walks,giraffe walks(2)
This is the way the giraffe walks,
so tall and quiet is he.”

 

 

 

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Now what do we see.Oh! Look at those naughty monkeys.
-So stretch your hands above your head and act as if you are swinging from branch to branch singing this song.
“This is the way the monkey swings, monkey swings.(2)
This is the way the monkey swings,
so quick and nimble is he.”

 

 

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-Well here comes the king of the jungle.so go on all fours and walk majestically like a lion.

Roar like a lion singing this song.

“This is the way the lion walks, the lion walks. (2)

This is the way, the lion walks
so big and strong is he.”

 

Wasn’t that fun? Well think of any more animal exercises that come to mind, mail them to us and we will add it to our list of animal exercises with your name.

 

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